What do you do.... when you have a boyfriend....but then you like another guy. You realize you should break up with your boyfriend, but then you also realize you love him and you're going to stay with him because he cares about you waay too much. But then the next day he doesn't text you. So you're texting the other guy and realize you like him more. But then the process happens all over again. I have no idea what to do. Help
Oh wow; this scares me a little bit because I’ve been in an identical situation before. I’ll tell you what I think you should do, but you may be the sort of person who needs to make their own mistakes so I won’t tell you what to do.
First of all, what happened to me was that I ended up cheating on my boyfriend while he was away. I lied about it. When I ended up telling him, we broke up (a week later) and I barely speak to him now - he was my best friend in the entire world and I have never regretted something so much in my life. The other guy and I were casual for a little while, but then I realised I had to stop deluding myself and that he didn’t like me - the only reason he was ever keen is probably because I had a boyfriend (the other boy was my ex).
So, on one hand, you might be in a situation where you should choose the other boy because if you really loved your boyfriend then you wouldn’t like this other guy. (it wasn’t that simple for me though).
But, on the other hand – you need to look at the situation and look from a completely objective view. Has this other boy said anything about wanting a relationship out of this? If no, then stop texting him. Do you love your boyfriend? If yes, then stop texting him. Do you want to lose the relationship you have now for something that’s not certain? If no, then stop texting him. Do you think you’re going to regret the decision you might make with this other boy? If yes, then stop texting him.
I don’t want to tell you what to do, because everyone needs to make their own mistakes. But I learnt this the hard way and I lost the one person in the world that I care about most, and I would never everwish that upon another person. I know if you don’t explore the other boy you may think to yourself ‘what if…’ But would you rather sit there going ‘what if…’ or going ‘I have just lost a boy who loves me more than anything in the world.’?
If I could go back and choose one, I know what I’d do. But you need to make your own, clear decision and think not only about you – but who else you’re hurting.